FAITH5 – Holding Your Family Together

Last year on one fine Sunday service, Rich Melheim gave the message says about his research FAITH5. 5 Simple Steps to help bring your family closer to God and Each other.
It was really good and I bought his book. I thought of writing about it.

He tells about how to bring family together and be funtastic. Everyday before going to bed, implement these 5 steps as a family.

A pillow fight before starting.
Step 1: SHARE your highs and lows every night.
Step 2: READ a key Bible verse or story every night.
Step 3: TALK about how the Bible reading might relate to your highs and lows every night.
Step 4: PRAY for one another’s highs and lows aloud every night.
Step 5: BLESS one another before turning out the lights on the day.

Each step he briefed with how it Sociologically, Psychologically, Theologically, Neurologically changes your family.

The Power of Habit

The Power of Habit

I started reading Intro to Psychology in online course and looking for something to read and got this book from my friend “The Power of HABIT”. He said it is about psychology of our habit and why we do it. So I got interest in it. Where I never read a full book before, other than academic (even academic we use to read important topics). This book made me to read fully.

HABIT – Why we do, What we do and How to change.

Power of Habit books show case that how Habit occurs and how to change it. It contains in three different areas of Habit of Individual, Organization and Society

Habit of Drug addiction can be changed, by set your focus on some other goal.

Our 40 % of daily activities are Habits. By understanding how it happens, you can rebuild  those patterns in whichever way you choose.

Changing Habits is possible. And now we understand how. We now know why habits emerge, how to change, and the science behind their mechanics.


The Habits of Individuals

1. The Habit Loop – How Habits work:

Story about Eugene Pauley (E.P) and Henry Molaison (H.M) famous patients in medical history. Removal of infected brain part “Hippocampus” resulted to memory lose. But still they able to remember the habits they learned and able to learn new habits in the medical research. When researching E.P, he doesn’t know where the kitchen is, but able to go by himself to take-up some nuts for eating.

Basal Ganglia – responsible for store the habits and igniting it. It placed in center of the skull, golf ball seized tissue. ( In head of fish, reptile or mammal)

Outer parts of brain works for most complex thinking tasks ( laugh for jokes, new invention). Deeper inside the brain and closest to the brain stem, where brain meets the spinal columns is used to control our automatic behaviors ( breathing, etc..)

MIT research lab, they took a rat and placed sensors inside its brain and put it into a maze ( T shape maze, where one side of T contains chocolate). After a week of repeating this maze to that rat and when we see the brain activity, its decreased.

When we repeating things, it gets to basal ganglia and our other parts of brain be silent to do those tasks.

Chunking – Our brains coverts a sequence of actions into a automatic routine.

Without habit loops, our brains would shutdown, overwhelmed by the minutiae of daily life. People whose basal ganglia are damaged become mentally paralyzed. They trouble performing basic activities.

We don’t realize how habit occurs (ex: eating at fast food, start once a month and becomes like twice a week). But still habit break off when a slight change occurs in it. (What happens when the fast food shop closed, we start eating at home, instead of searching new shop).

2. The Craving Brain – How to create new habit:

Story of Claude C. Hopkins – Advertisement consultant who is reason which due to his advertisement many companies are now having popular brand name.

“My life in advertising” book

Pepsodent – Brushing is not a habit in 1900’s, where due to his advs, now the company pepsodent being popular and brushing became a habit.

Cue – Routine – Reward


Habits created, which should be satisfied. Or Some of habits or routine is bored and will lost.

It’s all about Craving brain. Whenever we see a food item or chocolate, it automatically craves our brain to eat.


3. The Golden Rule of Habit Change – Why Transformation Occurs:

Tony Dungy – NFL Coach joined in a hopeless team.His coaching philosophy.

“Champions don’t do extraordinary things”. “They do ordinary things, but they do them without thinking, too fast for the other team to react. They follow the habits they’ve learned.”

Bill William – A drug addict turned to God (when he feels the spirit in one night and became a free man)

Bill didn’t read academic journals or consultant doctors, but founding AA. AA 12 steps.

Keep the Cue, Provide the same Reward, Insert a new Routine.

A disaster or life changing moment also helps people to change their habit or routine.

Electronic device in basal ganglia, turn on when crave occurs.

New routine will fail in stressful times.

If belief, in God or anything that helps to come out of a stress.

Believe -> comes from any life changing disaster or moment.


Habit of Successful Organizations

4. Keystone Habits, Or the Ballad of Paul O’ Neill – Which Habits Matter Most:

Alcoa – Aluminum Company of America (largest on earth)

New CEO – Paul O’ Neill

Employee Safety is the first rule he announced on his first meet

Change in One Habit, which automatically results change in other behavior

Due to change in the safety rule, the company employees feels the change in company and bought so many ideas and company back to top.

If you need a transformation, you can’t order people to change. So Decided to start focusing on one thing. If I could start disrupting the habits around one thing, it would spread throughout the entire company.

Some “Keystone habits” have the power to start a chain reaction.

To solve any problem go to the bottom of the problem and you will find the solution for it.

Exercise is one of the Keystone habits which make changes in our other behaviors.

Small Win” – in habits help other habits to flourish by creating new structures.

Keystone habits to remake workplace


5. Starbucks and the habit of success – When Willpower becomes automatic:

Travis – whose parents are drug addicts and he cannot stay on job for long, because of his behavior to customers.

Starbucks recruited him and after the training he is totally changed. So soft and care on customer.

Starbucks – training program teaches the life skills, one of the largest educators.

At the core of that education is focus on important habit – Willpower.

Self-discipline has bigger effects on academic performance than does IQ talent.

Willpower is learning skill which needs to be habit

Willpower linked with our self-regulatory.

KIPP – Knowledge is Power Program

Writing the booklet or notes helps more on what we are doing and more control. Self-discipline increases.


6. The Power of A Crisis – How Leaders Create Habits Through Accident and Design:

Habits aren’t deliberately planned, can create accidentally too.

An Evolutionary Theory of Economic Change – 1982

Accidents and Critics made leaders or organization to reorder or change the behavior.

Ex: Rhode Island hospital (Nurse & doctor fight) – Mistakes in operation made patient died

Kings’s Cross subway station – Departments fight – Fire on subway.


7. How Target knows what you want before you do – When companies Predict (and manipulate) Habits:

Target – Retail Shopper

  • Search habits of customer from shopping data and buy data from 3rd party.
  • Data collection through guest ID, debit, credit card, online, cookies.
  • Create personalized discounts for the customers.
  • Target was assigned Pole to analysis and get Pregnant women and send them discount products and in future they to send discounts on baby products.
  • In order to avoid customer doubt on shoppers about their tracking, Target send discount on mixed products, in a way customer won’t find any doubt with the advertisement.

Polyphonic HMI’s database – AI experts & statisticians – program Hit Song science.

But a song was not hit in radio station, where people change stations when this song comes. But it was rated high in AI program.

Researcher try to find a reason or idea to make this song hit.

Rich Meyer – Media base – analysis on sticky songs – Where people won’t change their radio station, even they didn’t like the song

Sticky songs – familiar – on genre – People even dislike, subconscious feel the familiar

We choose song like or dislike on mental effort. But most time sounds familiar – like and hear

How to make the song familiar

Play other two familiar songs before and after this, which makes people familiar and hear it.

Whether selling a new song, new food, the lesson is same. If you dress a new something in old habit or familiar, it’s easier for the public to accept it.


The Habits of Society

8. Saddleback Church and the Montgomery Bus Boycott – How Movements Happen:

1950 US – Racism (black and white)

Rose park – lady – bus incident, become social habit and protest

Park relation friend with field hands to college professors. That made to join big group of people to fight, when she ended to jail

  1. Weak tie – Close-tie friends
  2. Peer Pressure or Persuasion

Saddle back Church – Warren and McGavran

  1. Ministers needed to convert groups of people rather than individuals
  2. Teach them the habits of faith – then they become self-feeders.
  3. People follow Christ not because you’ve led them there, but because it’s who they are.


9. The Neurology of Free Will – Are We Responsible for our habits?

Sleepwalker or sleep terrors

While dreaming, our body will not react. But to sleepwalker, they unconscious but do things what they dream

“All our life” – William James – Unsuccessful in life. Make a decision one day to belive in Free Will

Charles Renourier

“Do things difficult at first time, but soon do it more and more easily, final with sufficient practice, do it semi-mechanically or with hardly any consciousness at all”

If you believe you can change – If you make it a habit – the change become real. This is real power of habit

David Foster in class

Fish to other fish – What is water?

The water is habits, the unthinking choices and invisible decisions that surround us every day – and which, just by looking at them, become visible again.

The principle of Psychology – William James

Water – “hollows out for itself a channel, which grows broader and deeper; and, after having ceased to flow, it resumes, when it flows again, the path traced by itself before”

You now know to redirect that path. You now have the power to swim.



  • Routine – The habits you want to change
  • Rewards – Relax, Not hungry, Saw flowers. Satisfy the craving
  • Cue – Identify the category
    1. Location – Where are you?
    2. Time – What time is it?
    3. Emotional State – bored or happy
    4. Other people – Who is around?
    5. Immediately preceding action – What action preceded the urge?
  • Plan


This blog contains only the notes what I have taken. Hope you got something on Habit, How it works and How to change it.


Courtesy: The Power Of Habit book. Read the book to get whole idea in good manner, which contains all chapters and concepts with real stories.

Intro to Psychology – Part 2


In part 1 we have seen about the Psychology, brain and behaviors. But there a lot of topics waiting for part 2, which will be more interesting ones like learning, memory, intelligence. So lets get started with Learning.

1) Learning

Learning is enduring change in behavior that occurs with experience. There are three types of learning Classic, operant and social learning.

a) Classical Conditioning:

Reflex – unlearned, automatic response (cough, eye blink)

Acquisition – Pavlov and dog (bell – meat – dog saliva)

Conditioned taste, smell – Some taste, smell make us ill.

Schedules of reinforcement – ratio, interval

b) ABC of Operant conditioning:

Sealion – training to kiss and dolphin show

Reinforcement and punishment are the basic keys to make learn.

i) Reinforcement – to increase a behavior. It can to +ve or -ve (by adding/removing something in environment)

ii) Punishment – to decrease a behavior

c) Social Learning:

If somebody do something and get a reward, we also like to do the same, so that we also will get a reward.

Bobo doll study, What we see on the social and gets a reinforcement, will do the same. (Watching television)

Brain and learning:

So how much you learn and practice, that much you brain neurons involved fired, wired and strengthened. When you stop learning, neurons become weaker and see a memory lose.



Long term learning makes our neuron stronger and growth, becomes change in brain.


2) Memory:

H.M – Henry Molaison, one of the famous patient in brain study for nearly 60 years. Few years ago he died and his brain was contributed to UCSD university for further study, which they sliced into 2400 slices.

H.M was affected by siezures due to some problem in Hippocampus. Because of his struggle in siezure nearly 10 per day, doctors decided to remove his hippocampi. Which solved his problem and came to know that his is not able to remember anything.

Hippocampus –  plays important roles in the consolidation of information from short-term memory to long-term memory

There are many types of memory which our brain deals on our life.

a) Sensory memory –  During every moment of an organism’s life, sensory information is being taken in by sensory receptors and processed by the nervous system.The information people received which is stored in sensory memory is just long enough to be transferred to short-term memory.

b) Short-term/working memory – listening, reading (practice to make long-term)

c) Working memory – day to day activities

d) Chunking – acronyms or 5-7-9 digits make easier to remember

e) Serial position effect – remember begin and end items of list

f) Long-term memory:

While short-term and working memory persist for 10 – 30 seconds, Long-term memory remain for indefinitely.

There are different sub levels involved to store the long-term memory

    • Episodic memory – biographic things
    • Semantic memory – general knowledge or facts
    • Explicit or declarative memory – abt past (both episodic & semantic)
    • Implicit or procedural memory – knowledge on previous experience
      • Riding cycle, swimming

There are four step for long-term memory:

    • Encoding – Attention, take it in, process info. More deeper the better we can recall. Mnemonic device – rhyme or acronym
    • Consolidation – Process of establish, stabilize our memory – sleep
    • Storage – Hierarchy, Schema, Associative network
    • Retrieval – recall the information.

g) False memory – memory will change the situation.

Lets take a Car accident, if police asks different words, ways of same questions to each witness, we use to get different answer. Becoz mind changes.

h) Forgetting and memory loss:

Interference – due to new information we learn, use to forget previous memory

i) 3 distinct long-term memory systems.

    • Cerebellum and Striation – Learn to do things such as implicit procedures
    • Amygdala – Experiencing emotional events.
    • Hippocampus – We Concioussly and explicitly remember personal event or trying to recall answer to an essay.

j) Emotion in memory – play key role of storing info in long-term memory.

2) Language and Thoughts

a) Stages: Lang Comprehension (understanding) and then Lang development (production)

b) Initial stage of child development – not learn (lang), window of learning closes and become very difficult to learn.

c) Hart and Risley theory (functional approach): Professional, middle-class, welfare family – decrease in learning lang, speaking, praising or positive words

d) Chomskys (Structural approach): comes of naturally

e) Thoughts:

    • Mental representation – structure in mind, like idea, image
    • Mental rotation – Concept, category, prototype
    • Reasoning – Deductive reasoning(straight forward), Inductive reasoning(stmt diff from people)
    • Critical thinking
    • Metacognitive thinking – first think and reflect on one’s own thinking
    • Judgment and decision making

3) Intelligence:

Intelligence is ability to think, reasoning, problem solving, learning, from experience.

Single ability: Intelligence on single ability, Where Math, Lang, spatial – related ( 1increase other also increase in scores)

Multiple Intelligence : There are 8 types of intelligence. Math, linguistic, spatial, music, bodily, intra, interpersonal, naturalist

Measuring Intelligence:

IQ test: result mostly on academic not for real life (happiness)

Stanford Binet test: IQ nature vs nuture. Gene or family plays less percentage of role in Intelligence, Where nuture or environment makes our intelligence.

Creativity: Is not on intelligence. Thinking out of the box.

Problem solving: Intelligence and Creativity helps on problem solving.

4) Motivation and Emotion:


  • Drive reduction model – body auto change respect to environment
  • Hierarchy of needs: Physiological ( basic needs like food, sleep, Safety, Love/Belonging, Esteem (Confidence, achievement), Self-actualization (creativity, problem solving)
  • Rejection
  • Achievement motivation – desire to do things well and overcome obstacles
  • Extrinsic motivation – motivate others by giving rewards (have opposite effects)
  • Intrinsic motivation – comes from within person (challenge, enjoyment, mastery)
  • Motivation to eat – Insulin (glucose to blood and stop hunger)


  • Moods – longer lasting experience
  • Emotion – short exp to mins
  • Affective traits – permanently
  • Pride
  • Emotion expressions – Charles Darwin
  • Facial expression change our mind and emotions (it may be fake too, it chg our emotions)
  • Emotion thro voice – can control facial expression, but not voice on emotions
  • Amygdala – brain that control emotions
  • Culture changes emotions
  • Make positive frozen in your face brings positive energy into you.

5) Stress and Health:


  • It couldn’t take it up to the mind easily.
  • As stimulus – event or situation that trigger stress
  • As response – physiological change
  • Cortisol release which affects the brain and cause the interfere to memory. It should stop in sometimes, otherwise the stress makes more chemical emit and cause damage to our brain.

Handling stress:

a) Problem-focused – change situation or solve problem
b) Emotion-focused – changing or regulating one’s emotional response (social support or sharing)

    • Reappraisal
    • Escape-avoidance
    • Self-control
    • Seeking social support
    • Emotional disclosure

c) Emotional disclosure – to write or talk about stressful situation
d) Meditation, exercise
e) Smoking – stimulant (raise level of nervous system)
f) Drugs – Depressant (reduce functional nervous system)

Health psychology

  • Physiological reaction model – bodily changes to illness
  • Health Behavior Approach – diet, exercise

Immune system:

  • Type of defense
  • Natural immunity
  • Acquired immunity

6) Personality:

Big Five or OCEAN:

a) Openness to experience – try new things or curiosity
b) Conscientiousness – careful and planful
c) Extraversion – social, open, no shyness, taking risk
d) Agreeableness – carrying, friendly, compassion, warm.
e) Neurotics – fear, sadness

Personality comes from nature and nurture
Environment influence more on non-family (non-shared – friends, teacher, role model) rather than family (shared)




There are some more topics contains more deeper content, which I like to skip. With this am ending  my Intro to Psychology blog.

Courtesy: To Udacity online course.

Intro to Psychology – Part 1


I get involved too much in Psychology now a days, let me start with my story of how I entered into this area.

I just enrolled into Machine Learning online course in Udacity. Where the course started awesome, but while moved on to next chapters lot of math getting involved in it and of-course we never used math in real world and become difficult. So I gave up and upset on me. And due to lot of  things which disturbs my mind, I started searching some other course in Udacity, and that’s where I found this course “Intro to Psychology” and I enrolled in it. Basically Udacity courses are not a lengthy videos to make people bored, rather it have 2-5 mins clips of explaining each modules or topics which makes us interest and learn. That how I started Psychology and finished the course, so I thought will have the important points of what we learned in my blog, which will make some progress in my blogging and also it refresh on this topics.


Introduction to Psychology:

As most of people having common idea on psychology and myself too had same thoughts that “Psychology deals only on reading peoples mind, clinical – patients on mental problems or depression, crime”. But when I started this course, I learned that psychology is dealing on vast area.

There are lot chapters in this course. So let me write about few chapters here and rest I will continue on next parts.

Psychology – Study on how people react or behave. Study about the mental function and behaviors.

1) Types of Psychology:

  • Cognitive – Mental processing. How our mind or brain processing things like memory, decision, solving problems, language.
  • Behavior
  • Development
  • Biological – Neuroscience
  • Personality
  • Industrial/Organization – Motivation, Productivity
  • Social
  • Forensics – Crime
  • Clinical

So the above list are the areas where Psychology is dealing. We will see each topics on future chapters.


2) Biology of Behavior:

Behavior comes from lot of aspects. So let see how biologically the behavior happens because of our brain.

DNA – comes from parental DNA and it is unique because of the formation of DNA strands by A, G, T, C  – four chemical parts.

Gene – (Genome) encoded in DNA which regulating expression of genes. Due to these expressions from gene our  behaviors comes out (so as differently as  gene is differ from each other)

But our brain development is affected not only by Gene, but from Gene and Environment (surrounding we grow up). So our behaviors are from both our Gene and our surroundings.

Epigenetics:  Expression affected by environment, gene or sequence will not change. So because of this, due to our environment change our behavior also changes.

So before getting deep into our behavior, let see how we react and brain works.


Nervous System:

Our nervous system contains two parts Central and Peripheral.

Central NS: connects the brain and spinal cord.

Peripheral NS: Connects other parts which works somatic and transmits sensor to brain.


Our brain activities and our body response are full of neurons. It helps to process and transmit information to brain.

Sensory neurons: to pass the sense information to brain

Motor neurons: message from brain to move muscles

Inter-neurons: connect neurons, where neurons communicate each other by transmitting electric signals.


As we already learned in schooling that brain contains many parts, where each helps to do something in our body (like memory storage, control heart and other parts)

We can read the brain activities by EEG, PET Scan or MRI. And there are lot other equipment’s to do that.


3) Sensation and Perception:

Weight and Threshold – We will feel the weight difference of threshold is above 3% weight. (For Ex: If you hold two same cups one in  a hand, and you feel the same weight. Lets pour 10ml of water in one cup, still you will feel its in same weight. You will feel the weight difference if the threshold is more than 3% of another weight).

Physical and emotional pain activates same brain cells. Which is why we feel equivalent pain in us when we physically hurt or emotionally.

Human Senses:

1) Taste:

To identify the primary flavors, chemicals in our body helps to identify the taste and smell. There are 10k taste buds in our tongue.

2) Hearing:

Everything we can hear on our limits in hertz and decibels. Dogs can hear more hertz than human. Human (20 – 20k hertz)

3) Sight

We can see clearly when the light waves hits our lens and connects exactly at retina or sensors. If it merges before or after, then we gets near or far sight problems.

We see different colors on its wavelength freq. Each color has it wavelength freq. And we see colors due to cones in eye, which has sensors of RGB color. So we see all the colors from RGB combinations.

Depth Perception:

How far the object is from us. We identify the object size, distance all by our binocular cue (2 eyes process the image). Jumping thumb ( by closing one eye and we see jumping thumb)

5) Development:

Let see how Development of our brain is as we grow.

a) Brain develops and behave on Nature and Nurture – Gene & Environment

b) Brain works through neurons. So it creates million on neurons, more on earlier stage of our childhood and it slows down. If brain neurons are not used and it will be dead.

So everyone have more capacity to works with brain and think, where we need to really do homework to make our neurons busy and active.

c) Growth and creation of neurons needs good sleep. That why for first few years children need good sleep.

d) New born babies hear more than the vision. So for first few months babies will have blur view of us and identify and react through hearing.

Child growth is a separate vast topic, which will learn later in life when needed 😛

 e) Social development:

People expects and needs secure and relationship attachment. Bowlby attachment theory – People need attachment which makes them secure and relationship.

Research explains that new born Babies on ICU incubator. Group of babies got cured and out of ICU soon and other babies got cured slowly. Difference is that cured babies are daily touched or cared by some people which makes them more secure and got them cured quicker.

f) Cognitive Development:

How our brain think, process and react.

Intelligence is on two types:

    • Crystallized intelligence  – what we learned from experience, learning and education ( problems what we seen before in life).
    • Fluid intelligence – Solving new problems, makes our brain to think and process to solve the problem. (at aging it decreases). At 60’s we start losing mental thinking.

6)  Consciousness – responsive/perception to surroundings:

a)  Coma & Consciousness – Aware of what is going on and react or not aware and not able to react. Consciousness of people vary on time, sometime we maid be fully aware or sometimes we din’t aware of our surrounding

b) Wakefulness & Awareness:

Wakefulness – Whether we are awake or sleep

Aware – Whether we are aware of surrounding, environment


c) Tip of the Tongue (TOT) – failure to retrieve word from memory. We are wake but slightly unaware.

d) Comma (no aware, no wake) – Vegetative state (wake, no aware)

e) Cock tail party – 3 person talks about your interested topic and you are concentrating to some other things, but your brain automatically listens to  it.

f) Attention – our ability to focus on aspects of our environment and to be consciously aware of it

Selective Attention – Our ability to pay attention to our environment while ignoring aspects of our environment

Sustained attention –  “the ability to direct and focus cognitive activity on specific stimuli.”

g) Meditation – growth in brain tissues, gives freshness

h) Sleep

Need 7-9 hours of good sleep.

Sleep apnea – pause in breathing 30 times in  a hour, mostly in day time sleeping.

Narcolepsy – inability to regulate sleep/wake cycle

Night terrors

Insomnia – difficult to sleep

i) Drugs

Any chemical which changes our behavior

I will end the part 1 with this, and conclude that what we do, think, behave all from our brain. And brain is responsible for our thinking and emotions( which we say as heart or love in heart).